What if the biggest roadblock in your marriage isn't your spouse—but your own mindset? In this powerful episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed counselor Kyle Hargrove unpack how a closed mind, especially one masked by victimhood or pride, can paralyze growth in a relationship. They share real stories, honest truths, and godly wisdom to help you—and your marriage—move from stuck to surrendered. Ready for change? It starts with humility. 💬❤️ #MarriageHelp #ChristianMarriage #GreaterImpact #RelationshipGrowth #HumbleHeart

Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say and How to Say It with Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove. 👋 Today, we’re digging into a difficult—but essential—topic: 👉 Is your partner attached to manipulation? 👉 Are you unknowingly using manipulation in your own relationship? 👉 What’s the difference between manipulation and motivation? We’re unpacking attachment styles, ive-aggressive behaviors, fear of conflict, and the silent lies that erode trust over time. 😶‍🌫️💔 You might be surprised to learn how common manipulation is—even in well-meaning relationships—and what to do about it.

Welcome to this episode of What to Say and How to Say It! I'm Nina Roesner, and I'm here with our favorite licensed professional counselor, Kyle Hargrove.   Today we’re diving into a tough but important question: Is your complaining ruining your attachment?   💡 Key Takeaways: How complaining changes your brain What attachment styles really are—and how they form Can someone change their attachment style? (Spoiler: Yes!)   What therapists can and can’t say about someone they've never met Why it’s dangerous to “diagnose” your spouse   👉 Take your next step: Visit greaterimpactlife.org to take a free marriage assessment and find out if you’re ready to mentor others—or if it’s time to get some help for your own relationship.

Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps you fix your marriage with grace and truth.   Today we dive into the world of respect in marriage with special guest Madison Agostini, leader of the wildly popular Respectful Wives Club (yes, 20,000 strong!). Madison shares what it’s really like to lead Christian women through the challenges of respect, boundaries, and obedience—and she does it all with humor, heart, and bold honesty.

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps Christian married couples fix communication and build deeper connection. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack attachment theory, focusing on the anxious attachment style and how to set healthy boundaries in marriage.   Learn how childhood wounds impact adult relationships, what to expect when dealing with anxious partners, and how faith, communication, and consistency can bring healing. With practical examples, biblical wisdom, and tools you can apply right now, this episode offers hope and direction for couples navigating conflict and emotional intensity.   🔗 our FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells 📊 Take the FREE Marriage Assessment ➡️ Visit: https://greaterimpactwives.org

Is complaining just venting—or is it silently reshaping your brain and relationships? 🤯   Nina Roesner and counselor Kyle Hargrove as they unpack the science behind chronic complaint, explore neuroplasticity, and show how shifting your words can shift your life. 💭✨      #WhatToSay #BrainHealth #StopComplaining #Neuroplasticity #MindsetMatters #GreaterImpact

Welcome to this episode of What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner and Licensed Professional Counselor Kyle Hargrove! 🎙️ Today, we’re diving into a powerful (and maybe convicting!) conversation: Are you creating drama in your marriage? We’re breaking down the Drama Triangle — the Victim, the Villain, and the Hero — three roles you DO NOT want to play if you’re serious about building a healthy, God-honoring relationship. Are you unintentionally sabotaging your marriage by trying to rescue your spouse? Are you falling into patterns of blame, manipulation, or emotional chaos? Or maybe, just maybe, you’re stuck in a cycle you didn’t realize you were even in… This episode is full of wisdom, humor, real-life examples, and biblical encouragement for anyone looking to stop the cycle of drama and start building connection instead. 👉 Take our FREE marriage assessment at https://greaterimpact.org to find out if coaching is right for you or if there are practical steps you can take to strengthen your marriage TODAY.

Welcome to today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, the podcast designed to help you fix your marriage! Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner as they dive into the topic of the Martyr Complex—an unhealthy mindset that can trap us in conflict and distance within our relationships. In this episode, we discuss the signs of a martyr or savior complex, how they show up in our marriages, and how to break free from the victim mentality that holds us back. We also explore ways to retrain your thinking and embrace personal responsibility to bring healing to your marriage. 📌 Visit our website greaterimpactwives.org for a free PDF, "5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells" and take our free marriage assessment to get started on your journey toward a stronger, more connected marriage. 🔔 Subscribe for more tips on building a thriving, Christ-centered marriage!

Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive deep into the victim mindset and the lies that keep us trapped. We explore biblical truths that help rewire your thinking, build stronger connections, and navigate conflict in a godly way.   2 Corinthians 10:5 – "Take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ." Topics Covered: The 4 lies that keep you feeling powerless How to shift from a victim to a victor mindset Why God’s timing matters more than our expectations Setting healthy boundaries in marriage The truth about submission & faith over fear   Free Resources! 🔹 : Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells → Visit greaterimpactwives.org 🔹 Take our Free Marriage Assessment! 💬 Let us know in the comments: Which mindset shift resonated with you the most?

Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say & How to Say It! Are you the villain or the victim in your marriage? Or is your spouse? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove and host Nina Roesner dive deep into how these roles play out in relationships—and how your perception shapes everything. We’ll uncover: ✅ The exhausting cycle of victimhood ✅ How villains are created (and why it’s not always what you think) ✅ The power of perception in relationships ✅ What God says about complaining and taking thoughts captive Don't let toxic patterns take over your marriage! Take our free marriage assessment at greaterimpact.org and discover your next steps.  

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It, the podcast that helps you navigate conflict and build a thriving marriage. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner continue their series on narcissism—this time exploring healing. If you've been in a relationship with a narcissistic person, you know how challenging it can be to regain your sense of self. Today, we’ll discuss: ✅ The impact of prolonged exposure to narcissistic behavior ✅ How healing is possible with God ✅ The role of radical acceptance in your journey ✅ How to stop taking things personally and break free from the enemy’s cycle 📥 FREE Resources: ➡ 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells at greaterimpactwise.org ➡ Take our Marriage Assessment to see where you stand  

In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Nina Roesner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove dive into three key ways narcissists deflect — and how these behaviors may show up in your relationships. Whether you've experienced deflection or have been guilty of it yourself, this conversation offers practical insights to help you improve communication, take ownership, and build stronger connections. 💬 Learn more at greaterimpact.org 👍 Like, share, and subscribe for more relationship insights!

We’re tackling the tough and often confusing topic of narcissism — what it really is, what the experts say, and how to handle these challenging behaviors when they show up in your marriage. Are you married to a narcissist — or just dealing with narcissistic behaviors? Either way, you’ll come away with practical, faith-based strategies to help you show up differently, set boundaries, and protect your heart.   👉 our FREE PDF: 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells at greaterimpactwives.org 👉 Take our FREE Marriage Assessment to check in on your relationship.

Welcome to another episode of What to Say and How to Say It! Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s becoming more common in conversations: Are you a narcissist? You may have been called one or wondered if you are—but what does narcissism really mean? Licensed professional counselor Kyle Harrove s us to break it down. We’ll explore the difference between everyday selfishness and true narcissism, how our early years shape us, and what it takes to build healthier relationships. 👉 Take our free marriage assessment at greaterimpact.org to discover where you stand.

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We often break promises, overcommit, or underestimate the work involved in our commitments—leading to frustration and a loss of trust in relationships. In this episode, we explore how inconsistency affects respect and connection, why follow-through matters, and practical ways to avoid this common pitfall. our FREE PDF, 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells, and take our marriage assessment at greaterimpactwives.org.  

Feeling unappreciated in your marriage? You’re not alone. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner dive into the silent killer of relationships—lack of appreciation. Learn why couples drift apart without realizing it and how small, intentional actions can break the cycle. 📥 Grab your FREE resources: 📌 5 Tools to Stop Walking on Eggshells 📌 Marriage Assessment ➡️ Get yours at greaterimpactwives.org Don’t let unspoken gratitude create distance. Tune in now and start strengthening your marriage today!

In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Roesner and Kyle Hargrove explore how shared values shape respect and harmony in marriage. They discuss practical ways to identify, discuss, and align core values with your partner—whether it’s about parenting, finances, faith, or conflict resolution. Tune in for real-life stories, expert advice, and actionable insights to strengthen your relationship.     👉 Visit greaterimpact.org to take our marriage assessment and discover more resources. Interested in working with Kyle? Stay tuned for details at the end of the episode!

In today's episode of What to Say and How to Say It, it's all about the lack of respect that often shows up in relationships, how it leads to communication breakdowns, and what you can do about it. Whether you're dealing with stonewalling or just a communication gap, this podcast provides actionable insights to help Christian married couples rebuild trust and connection. We discuss how to make the first move with small gestures, understand the importance of giving space, and even address the complexities of the "no " approach when things go terribly wrong in a marriage. Tune in for practical advice, , and wisdom on how to navigate tough moments and re-engage with your spouse. Free PDF: Five Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells Marriage Assessment: Available at greaterimpactwives.org  

Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say & How to Say It – the podcast that helps you fix your marriage! hosts Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner as they tackle the thought-provoking topic: "Is self-love or self-respect selfish?" In this episode, we explore the fine line between self-love and selfishness from a Christian perspective. How do self-care and dying to oneself, as taught in the Bible, coexist? What does it mean to navigate relationships with self-respect while staying rooted in Christ-like values? We share powerful stories, including how prioritizing self-respect can transform relationships, and offer practical insights on setting boundaries and expressing needs clearly. Plus, we reflect on the cultural confusion around self-love and the role of faith in guiding these choices. 📖 Check out our free resources at greaterimpactwives.org: ✨ 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells ✨ Marriage Assessment