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Resources mentioned: Nick's book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch: http://aterriblehusband.com/amazon This episode is brought to you by Audible: Visit http://www.audibletrial.com/nick to get the best audiobooks sent straight to your phone. If you are new to audible and go through that link you can get a free 30-day trial and a free audiobook that you can keep even if you cancel during the trial period. You can even get Nick's book Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch there, read by Nick. Just visit www.audibletrial.com/nick.

Resources mentioned: Nick's book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch: http://aterriblehusband.com/amazon This episode is brought to you by Audible: Visit http://www.audibletrial.com/nick to get the best audiobooks sent straight to your phone. If you are new to audible and go through that link you can get a free 30-day trial and a free audiobook that you can keep even if you cancel during the trial period. You can even get Nick's book Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch there, read by Nick. Just visit www.audibletrial.com/nick.

This episode is brought to you by Audible http://www.audibletrial.com/nick where you can get the best audio books sent straight to your phone. If you are new to audible and go through that link you can get a free 30-day trial and a free audiobook that you can keep even if you cancel during the trial period. You can Nick's book Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch there, read by Nick through www.audibletrial.com/nick (free if you're new with this link), or at Amazon at www.aterriblehusband.com/amazon. Here's the link for the free book and trial to audible.com again: http://www.audibletrial.com/nick   Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

In this podcast episode, Bill McDonald of www.BillyMcDonald.com and www.The13Codes.com shares 3 of 13 codes of conduct that can elevate any man to Modern-Day Knighthood! Check out his Free Training at www.The13Codes.com/Nick! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.RenegadeGentlemen.com/Confessions In this episode, Phil Potts, author of Habits of Heroic Husbands and leader of Renegade Gentlemen shares tips for eliminating frustration and taking your marriage to a 10! He also has a special offer for 25 lucky Confessions listeners, so head over to www.RenegadeGentlemen.com/Confessions to check it out. Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

me in the Thrive Community by the Zig Ziglar Family at www.ATerribleHusband.com/Community. You can for only $1, but be warned, doors close tonight so hurry! This episode talks about how to improve our marriages by improving our mindset. Resources: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks (get it free if you're new to audible at www.audibletrial.com/nick)  Thrive Community from the Zig Ziglar Family at www.ATerribleHusband.com/Community  Also, the Ziglar Family is still offering the free challenge and added a free assessment tool to find where your family needs some help or focus. Check them out at these urls: www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge  www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarAssessment Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge  www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarLive  Don't let the fear of not wanting to bring something up, or having to have a discussion about why you don't go on date nights very often, or the fear that your spouse will realize you're a terrible spouse if you do something obvious, or the lack o there being a "good time" keep you from improving your relationship. Here are a few ways to take the thinking out of starting to improve your marriage. Also, the Ziglar Family is still offering the free challenge and added some live online events to help you. Check them out at these urls: www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge  www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarLive  And thanks to www.GetDateBox.com for the free kit. It was a great way to kickstart date night without having to do all the planning. :) Another way to start a mindless marriage makeover. Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge This is Day 7 of the FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship. In this day, we learn about how to leave a legacy. For people of faith, today's lesson is about leaving a faith legacy. The same principles help no matter what you believe is your bigger purpose. Check it out. Don't miss my interview with Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge and the other 6 days' podcasts. Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge This is Day 6 of the FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship. In this day, we learn about how to improve our finances. Don't miss my interview with Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge and Days 2, 3, 4, and 5's podcasts. Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge This is Day 5 of the FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship. In this day, we learn about how to create a sense of community in your family. Don't miss my interview with Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge and Days 2, 3 and 4's podcasts. Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge This is Day 4 of the FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship. In this day, Tony Dungy talks about how to shift your work life and mindset to be more connected with your family. Don't miss my interview with Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge and Days 2 and 3's podcasts. Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge This is Day 3 of the FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship. This day talks about 3 simple shifts we can make to improve our physical and emotional health. Don't miss my interview with Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge and Day 2's podcast. Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge This is Day 2 of the FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship. Don't miss my interview with Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge. Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

Sign up today at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge In this episode I interview Ziglar Family CEO Mark Timm about a FREE 7-day Family Challenge you can take at any time to improve your relationship and share my reaction to Day 1. Tune in tomorrow for episode 33 to hear more about Day 1 and my intro to Day 2's challenge in my 7-day podcasting marathon to take the challenge with you! Based on the 7-spoked wheel of life by Zig Ziglar, you can get a free lesson in 7-key areas from leading experts so you can begin to change your family tree today. Sign up at www.ATerribleHusband.com/ZiglarChallenge today! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship! Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!  

Almost four years ago, I realized I was a terrible husband. I was lazy, unintentional, unreliable, and more. If not for a chance encounter with a couple who would quickly become my friends and mentors, I have no doubt that I’d be writing about my former marriage by now. Since then, I’ve spent four years learning and applying as much as I can to improve my relationship and by sharing my favorite lessons learned from the pros, help you improve yours, too, no matter how great your relationship already is! If you’re new to the site, the best ways to get into my head and take advantage of the research I’ve done (and mistakes I’ve made) already are to pick up my book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch, check out more posts right here, follow me on social channels, or listen to the podcast (It’s on iTunes, Spotify, Stitcher, iHeartRadio, and more. Just hover over the word “podcast” on the top of any page on the site!). Although my marriage is much improved, it’s definitely been more of a roller coaster than a rocket ship launching into space. We have ups and downs, like any relationship, although the ups are "uppier" and the downs are less "downish." Yes, I made those words up. It’s my blog. I can do that. :) We’ve had periods where we make great progress and then weeks or months where things feel a bit stale and need a kickstart. When that happens, these three things help regain focus, direction, and momentum! Change your dinner plans. It’s no secret that Dan and Joanne Miller were the first marriage mentors who I connected with to help me transform my relationship. Since meeting them, I’ve been very intentional to surround myself with many other men, women, and couples with great marriages so I can learn as much as possible. As motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, we’re the average of the five people we spend the most time with. One of the easiest ways to start with this is to just begin making dinner plans with couples you believe have great marriages. Keep it simple. You don’t need any magic words or to ask any specific questions. Just spend more time with people who have relationships like you want to build and less time with people who don’t. You can learn a ton just by being around people with great marriages. Change your programming with new books, podcasts, or video content. If you can’t find people with great marriages to spend more time with, find virtual mentors by reading books, listening to podcasts, or watching great video content. If you can do this with your spouse, even better. But if not, that’s okay. Make the first move by consuming content that can help you improve your relationship and applying the lessons you learn. Before I turned 30, I had read fewer than 10 books for personal growth, and those were all finance and business books. After turning 30, I started reading more business and marketing books. Although my finances looked great and my career was going well, my personal life was pretty . . . well, you know the name of this blog, so that pretty much says it all. :) Now, I’m constantly either reading a book, listening to a podcast, or watching a video about improving my relationship and then committing to applying at least one thing I learned from the material. My favorite way to do it is through audiobooks, which I can listen to while emptying the dishwasher, cleaning my office, and more. I highly recommend everyone subscribe to Audible where you can get a new book every month. If you aren’t a member yet, you can get a free month and a free book to keep (even if you cancel) by heading here. However you consume content, direct some of it on a regular basis to improving your relationships, and commit to applying one lesson you learn from each piece of content to put a jolt in your relationship. Take a guided challenge! When you’re just starting to intentionally improve your relationship, or if it’s been weeks or months since you last made an intentional effort, one of the easiest and best ways to build positive momentum is to take a guided challenge. The best part about taking a guided challenge is it takes all the thinking out of improving your relationship! You don’t need to look for a lesson or get anyone’s buy-in. You just follow the instructions. I’ve made it a point to take at least one challenge every year and each time I take one, my marriage gets a great boost! This year, I’m taking a FREE 7-day challenge by the Ziglar family (yes, that Ziglar family!) that starts Monday, March 27, 2017, and I’d like to invite you to do it with me. After taking a deep dive behind the scenes of the free 7-day challenge, I saw three things that made me quickly become more excited about this free challenge than about many paid challenges I’ve seen. First, it’s only 7 days long. Anyone can stick to a challenge for 7 days. Second, it touches 7 key areas of family life, including relationship, communication, physical health, work–life integration, community, financial, and—if you’re spiritual in nature—spiritual. Finally, the challenge is led by seven leading experts on their relevant subject matter. Get this: Day 1: Gary Chapman (Relationships) Day 2: Michael & Gail Hyatt (Communication) Day 3: Dr. Josh Axe (Physical Health) Day 4: Tony Dungy (Work–Life Integration) Day 5: Brian Buffini (Community) Day 6: Dave Ramsey (Finances) Day 7: Zig Ziglar’s own children – Cindy, Julie, and Tom (Spirituality). Needless to say, that’s seven sorts of awesome right there. And each of them shares their best advice for you during the challenge! I hope you me in taking the challenge! I liked it so much I agreed to help promote the free challenge for them in addition to taking it myself. It’s totally free to sign up. They also have other great free content there to check out and a paid hip and coaching program if you want to go even deeper, so be sure to check it out. Are you ready to kickstart your marriage? How will you do it? Will you change your dinner plans? Will you change your programming? Will you me in the FREE 7-day challenge? All 3? Something else? In the comments, share how you’re going to kickstart your relationship. If you’re going to me in the Ziglar family challenge, be sure to come back here and share your progress in the comments to this post and look out for more great posts (and a surprise podcast episode) from me!

This episode is brought to you by Audible. To get a free 30-day trial and a free audiobook to keep forever if you're new to Audible, even if you cancel during the trial (which is super easy to do) go to www.audibletrial.com/nick. You can even get Nick's book, Confession of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch, for FREE there if you're new to audible. Here's the link again: www.audibletrial.com/nick. Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

Check out Brett's book, Right Now: Why not you and why not now?! on Amazon right here Make sure to check out Brett's preorder bonuses at www.aterriblehusband.com/brett too. Get my audiobook for free if you're new to audible by g up for a free 30-day trial of Audible at www.audibletrial.com/nick. Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship!

Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship! This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial and a free audiobook to keep by going to www.audibletrial.com/nick. You can even get my book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch, there for FREE with that credit! Check out the blog at www.aterriblehusband.com!

Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Get signed or bulk books at www.aterriblehusband.com or on Amazon at www.aterriblehusband.com/amazon or on audible for free if you're new to audible at www.audibletrial.com/nick.  Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship! This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30 day trial and a free audiobook to keep by going to www.audibletrial.com/nick. You can even get my book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch, there! Check out the blog at www.aterriblehusband.com. 

Confessions of a Terrible Husband is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility over improving their relationships. Hear Nick Pavlidis talk all things marriage and life and interview people like Fawn Weaver from The Happy Wives Club, John G. Miller, of QBQ, Inc., Dan Miller and Joanne Miller of 48 Days to the Work You Love, Derek and Carrie Olsen from Better Conversations, Marcus and Ashley Kusi from the Our Peaceful Family, and many, many more, about the best ways to have an amazing relationship! This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30 day trial and a free audiobook to keep by going to www.audibletrial.com/nick. You can even get my book, Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch, there! Check out the blog at www.aterriblehusband.com!